I love my wife, but I just can't take it anymore
An anonymous caller answers the hotline after hesitating for a while, finding it noticeably difficult to speak. Finally, he reports that he is married to the love of his life and has two teenage children with her. Four years ago, however, the dynamic in the relationship had changed.
When asked by the counselor what exactly this meant, he talked about domestic violence in the form of extreme humiliation and insults, and occasionally also physical violence.
He had spent a long time looking for reasons within himself for this behavior. In addition, two loved ones in the family had died, which he saw as a reason for his wife's changed behavior. The previous evening there had been renewed violence, this time including serious physical assaults. He had then called the police, who had now sent the perpetrator away for 10 days.
Mr. A. now gives his name and is noticeably calmer as he talks about his long ordeal and how difficult it was for him to call the police, but he simply couldn't take the situation any longer. The conversation on the helpline encouraged him in his decision to stand up for himself and protect himself from violence.
The two of them discuss further options for action. There are many questions for Mr. A.: What happens after the 10 days? How can he protect himself in the future? What about his children? Where can he turn?
The advisor goes through various scenarios with him, and the man is particularly concerned about his own wishes for his life. Together, this one can be formulated immediately: He wants to get out of this violent relationship, even if it hurts him to leave his wife.
At the end, further support options are discussed (legal advice, family counseling, violence protection law), which can help him find a way out of the violent relationship.